Spending time with others helps with our abundance?

22 May 2013 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Coaching, Community, Emotional Intelligence Tags: , ,

In the next few weeks, there are many exciting things happening in my life including travel and some really inspiring events (I will include links to the inspiring events on the bottom of this post). My travel all transpired organically and very last minute, which reminded me of how when we live in the flow we are easily able to manifest what we want.

I am gearing up to meet Amma in Seattle this weekend (check out my post last year on the purest love I experienced with her-http://bit.ly/12NjYza), then I am off to Hawaii and Fiji! I am living my dream of working off my laptop on an exotic beach;) All of this last minute travel has been teaching me quite a bit about myself especially around my relationship with money and people. I noticed that as I had started to spend quality time with people who I felt uplifted and inspired around, money and opportunities started to flow my way.

Queen of EarthThe Queen of Earth card below from the Angel Tarot Cards shows us how we can create magic all around us if we stay connected to our surroundings, spend quality time with individuals who we leave feeling refreshed and renewed and she especially shows us that bringing in compassion into situations allows us to have positive outcomes to challenges.

Have you realized that when you are happy and feeling healthy, that everything seems to be better? When we are in the flow of life, relationships are better, there is more opportunities coming your way and all your manifestations are coming true. Wouldn’t it be great to feel this way all the time?

It is possible that you can. It is a choice you make to “BE” happy, “BE” content and “BE” present around the people you enjoy spending time with. If you notice diverging from any of these states, ask yourself “am I avoiding intimacy,” or “how do I feel around these individuals?” I will remind you that no one can make you feel any which way, if someone makes us tired or a little negative than we are allowing someone else to determine how we feel. If you notice that you are constantly feeling a little more down around a certain person, ask yourself “what is it that they remind me of that gets me feeling anything less than positive?”

I know that this post is loaded with relationship related questions that we will unpack over the next couple of weeks as we gear up for the 4 part – call series on Attracting more Money and Live Healthier.

I will leave you off with an exercise to visit your current list of family and friends and see who you feel the most refreshed around, rejuvenated and inspired by. I would suggest spending more time around those individuals and watch how much more grateful you are towards life then!

 

Exciting Events coming up

June 19th – “Truths and Myths of Successful Startup Businesses” – www.byobfsuccessstartup.eventbrite.ca

Come learn from experts and entrepreneurs on tips on how to have a successful startup.

 

June 20th – “Wealthylicious Vancouver” - http://wealthyliciousvancouver.eventbrite.com/

Heal Your Money Stories, Activate Your Millionaire Mindset and Create Multiple Streams of Income.

 

July 8th – “Attract More Money and Live Healthier” - http://wp.me/P1HP20-7M

A 4 tele-call series on Attracting more Money and living healthier focusing on money mindset, and a 30-day action plan to achieve your goals. (A tele-call series is a group coaching program, where you will be provided a conference call number to dial into during call times and will be sent a recording incase you miss the live class. Email support is provided in between calls to answer all questions you may have)

Spontaneous or Living from your heart?

11 May 2013 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Love, Money Tags: ,

Recently, I have been really looking money in the eye to ensure that I will reach my money goals for this year.

For me it was important to recognize what I really want out of life and what steps I will take to get it? In the past, I have done the vision board, the goal setting and intentions but I didn’t always take action as I knew I should. Have you ever been in the same boat too?

To shift out of this planning stage into action stage, I took a few steps that I will share with you here:

1. Looked money in the eye! I looked at my budget and really spent time on analyzing where I was spending a lot of money and where I was investing.

2. I looked at what I wanted out of life and how do I really want to feel. There were a few leaps of faith that I will have to take in order to really achieve all that I want and those leaps would require an investment. I had to ask myself, how ready am I to make an investment in myself? My answer was a resounding very ready!

3. I paniked a little as I didn’t know how I was going to be supported. I also realized that I have always been able to attract money when I needed so how would this time be any different? A friend reminded me that everything that I currently wanted was somehow or the other paid for or I had the money lined up for. I realized quickly I didn’t really need to worry.

The budgeting, settling into the feeling, calling in support and most importantly I devised an action plan of how I would move forward. As soon as I took action in one area, many other things fell into place. Planned and inspired action allows us our biggest rewards. What action are you ready to take right now?

Join me in the 4-week tele-call series “Attract More Money and Live healthier”  starting in July. Are you ready to invest in yourself to step towards creating the life you want? http://wp.me/P1HP20-7M

Love Yourself Before You Love Anyone Else

12 Feb 2013 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Celebration, Emotional Intelligence, Love Tags: ,

“The love you seek is seeking you at this moment.”
- Deepak Chopra

What kind of love do you most seek? What does this love look like for you?

Our capacity to love is dependent on how much we love ourselves. Our heart can only love what it practices on a daily basis. Many times we believe we really do love ourselves, usually we do. There are different forms of love within ourselves as well.

I personally have struggled with the concept of what does it mean to love myself. It is not something that is tangible. It is not something that is measurable so how can I improve how much I love myself. Being South Asian, there has a history of repressed emotions. This is changing over time as people become more aware of themselves and others around them. This background does further support the notion that I didn’t know how to love myself more.

The steps that I took in order to develop a deeper capacity of love for myself were

1. I developed a clear picture of how I wanted to feel when I fully love myself. I did this through meditation and the feeling of love.

2. I developed a daily list of gratitude for aspects of myself. The list included things I am proud of, achievements and successes I had.

3. I used affirmations like “I am in the process of  loving myself, wholly and completely.” The process of loving myself wholly and completely, allowed me to recognize signs of how I am loving myself.”

Describe for yourself what does love look like for you?

Be in the energy of love each day, every day.

Empowered Men and Women in the Home

29 Nov 2012 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Community, Emotional Intelligence, South Asian Tags: , ,

Last night I had the privilege of connecting with the women of the India Mahila (women) Association through Mosaic BC (www.mosaicbc.com). The workshop was titled “Empowering Women” with a focus on research statistics from the “Creating Families by Design: Births in BC’s Indo-Canadian Community and my workshop on Empowering South Asian Men and Women in the home.

The statistics for the Creating Families by Design: Births in BC’s Indo Canadian Community are available at (http://bit.ly/IINXva). The interesting aspects of this study is that this type of selection happens here in Canada, a nation where we are promoting the equality of men and females in all areas of their lives.

The research pointed to the fact that this type of sex selection happens more amongst immigrant families. Through the discussion, the conversation around how South Asian men and women are empowered within the home. The conversation can be applied to any culture, ethnicity and race as the upbringing of individuals as we are conditioned not only by our race, culture, ethnicity but by genetics, society and general programming through media.

Through the workshop, I asked the question of how the women perceive men and women. The answers I received were men are perceived as “ego, confident, dependent, demanding, strong, protectors, and know it all” and women are perceived as 2nd class, weaker sex, victim, honor of the house, nurturer, motherly, and backbone of the family.” It was interesting as the genders were perceived in their roles instead of as individuals.

Through further discussion, the women were asked to go into meditation to get a sense of how they feel during their interactions with masculine and feminine. This exercise led to the discovery that some of the women did not feel the connection of the masculine while they felt a deep connection with the feminine. How do you feel about your connection with your masculine and feminine?

The workshop ended with both roles being seen as leaders, a person, humanitarian, individual, independent and with an identity.

How do you want to be seen in the world? Do these words resonate with you?

“Be the CEO of your Joy’

23 Oct 2012 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Celebration, Coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Love Tags:

I recently read the lesson “No one else is in charge of your happiness. Be the CEO of your Joy” in the book “God Never Blinks- 50 Lessons for Life’s Little Detours” by Regina Brett. Before I actually read the chapter I decided to go into my own akashic records to see what this lesson means for me. Upon consulting my records, I quickly became aware of my joy is living in reality. There are many illusions that I have created or I have bought into. When I take ownership of my joy, guide myself to more joy, I find myself in a place of growth and expansion and happiness.

There are times where most of us have looked outside ourselves for happiness or joy either from an achievement, friend, partner, money , etc. Ask yourself “where have I looked for joy?”

Are you surprised by this answer? Now remember a time when you really felt happy. What were the circumstances that got you to that state? Was it the fact that a new partner came into your life and you realized how much you had grown as a person? Was it that you committed to yourself and achieved a goal? Notice the statements show you as the owner of your happiness.

I decided to read the book on this lesson. My takeaways were:
1. Ask yourself what truly would make you happy.
2. Choose to be happy
3. Accept and celebrate that you are in charge of your own happiness.

Smile. You are in charge.

Book Review – The Go Giver

01 May 2012 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Emotional Intelligence, Self-Worth, Success Tags: , , ,

A few months ago I was gifted the book – The Go Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann. I decided that yesterday I would start reading this book, well I got so into it (plus it is a quick read) I was finished by the end of the night.

The Go Giver is based on a story of how a man learns to show up in the world. Through different experiences he is taught the “Trade Secret.” I strongly suggest reading the story but I will share the 5 Laws discussed in the book.

The Five Laws of Stratospheric Success

1. The Law of Value - Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.

2. The Law of Compensation - Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.

3. The Law of Influence – Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.

4. The Law of Authenticity - The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.

5. The Law of Receptivity - The key to effective giving is stay open to receiving.

How can you apply these principles in your life?

 

Smiles

07 Feb 2012 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Emotional Intelligence, Love Tags: , ,

One of the challenges here at the resort is English is not the first language of the staff and the guests. Every time I come to the resort, I am reminded of how communication is done through smiles and body language just as much as it is does through words.

Each day, my therapists greet me with the biggest smiles and a slight touch on the elbow. In this expression, I know they care about me as a person. I feel connected to them in our one word dialogue as we try to get to know each other.

I am truly connected to everyone and everything.

A smile goes a long way. Here’s me smiling at you.

Date with you

16 Jan 2012 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Love, Self-care, Women Tags: , ,

Our relationship with ourselves is really a mirror of our relationship with others.
We can only treat others as well as we treat ourselves as that is the best of how we know.

How do you treat yourself? Do you spend time with yourself doing what you want to do? When was your last date with yourself where you really had a great time? How do you talk about yourself and your body?

Wow, that’s a lot of questions.

Are you thinking…really a date with myself? What does that mean?

For example my yesterday’s date was a movie “What’s your number” and a bath. I did indulge in an ice cream because my body said yes to it. Yes check in with yourself and your body as to what it really wants. This check in is the type you would do with a best friend to see what they want so you both have a great time.

With this exercise you are able to connect to yourself in a more complete way.

Do a check in now and honor what you want to do.

Have a fun date with yourself!

Open to intimacy

27 Dec 2011 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Beauty, Emotional Intelligence, Women Tags: ,

In the holidays, many of us choose to spend time and catch up with our relationships with loved ones.

We may have the large get-togethers or smaller visits as a way to connect, re-connect and discover where the adventures of the year took us.

As we are having these conversations and making connections, our comfort levels with intimacy will show up.

You may partake in superficial level of conversation or dive into a important area of your life expressing values and beliefs, this all depends on the person and your comfort level with intimacy.

What does intimacy mean to you?

To some it is how vulnerable we allow ourselves to become, how much we stay in our body, our engaged we remain with the conversation.

Take a moment and ask yourself on a scale of 1-10, ten being the highest”how comfortable am I with intimacy?”

Release all judgments as this answer may differ in different situations.

Your comfort level of intimacy with yourself will be different than that of with your partner, your family, your best friend and your neighbor.

The important thing is the awareness.

What would your life look like if you had more intimacy in your life?

What is your block in having more intimacy?

As we move into the new year, some of the resolutions may be to be fit, to be in a relationship and to have more money. All of these require intimacy.

What steps are you taking to bring more of it in?

Visit http://www.intoessencecoaching.com/contact to schedule your complimentary 1/2 exploration call on how to bring more into your life what you want.

Why am I not doing what I want to?

06 Dec 2011 Leave a Comment

by manpreetkdhillon in Coaching, Emotional Intelligence, Love Tags: , , ,

At some point, we may ask ourselves – Why am I not doing what I want to?

We know what we want, we know how to get there but we don’t do what we know we need to do. We may be
-too busy
-tired
-sick
-there is too much going on
-the time isn’t right
-I am not ready yet
-it’s the other person’s fault
-fill in your reason here.
Our mind can find us a million reasons why we are not doing what we want to do.

Resistance shows up in different ways. We are maybe just too busy and stressed to have a few hours for a coffee date, networking event or even for ourselves. When we are feeling overwhelmed, stressed or too busy is really the time when we need to go within ourselves and ask what am I really avoiding right now? What connection am I avoiding? What emotion am I feeling?

This may not feel so good anymore…. here are a few questions to help move out of resistance.

What is it that you really want to do?

What would be the ideal conditions for you to do what you really want to do? Make a list or images of these conditions.

Being honest with yourself, now assess this list or image for what is really necessary and what isn’t.

Now write down one thing that you can do today towards your goal. Yes just one thing.

Once you have done it, how does it feel to have taken that step towards your goal? How do your reasons feel now?

What is another step you can take tomorrow?

It is very important to have compassion for yourself as you are moving towards your goals. It is also important to recognize the support you have or the type of support you may need right now. Sometimes it is a simple act of nurturing yourself through going for a walk, taking a bath or getting a massage. Other times, you may need some energy work that will help to shift some patterns. Sometimes we need a longer term relationship with a mentor/coach that we can have as our support and allow us to be accountable to our goals.

Honor yourself by asking yourself what is it that your soul is really asking for at this time.
Namaste.

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